Today I am sharing something very personal about me. I have partnered with SK-II to support and bring awareness of the social pressures women faces everyday, especially on the factor of “growing older” as a woman. This has been a topic that we discuss about every day in our life, we constantly feel like we are running out of time in life.
I am sure every one of you have felt pressured to live life a certain way, we’ve all felt unsure of path ahead, act and behaviour accordingly to the society.
When I was young, in my teenage years, I always saw a set path ahead of me, whether it was to go to university, achieving good grades, get a nine to five job, getting married by twenty-eight, having kids before thirsty. These are the set standards that was set for every one of us to achieve as a human, especially as an woman. These ages are not set accordingly to individuals, but according to the society and what is the right time.
I was raised in a very traditional Chinese family, growing up as a child there’s not a single day in my life that I do not feel pressured to be something I am not, whether is achieve highest mark in school or be successful in life. My parents are constantly pushing me to be “better”, they have a very high expectation for me. Growing up as a kid, I always wanted to impress and make my parents proud, I would always try my hardest and push myself to get the best marks in school. When it came to university, I was not the one to pick my future career or do what I love. Instead I was pressured to attend University of Toronto for Life Sciences, this is a career path that was selected for me by my parents, they always wanted me to be a doctor when I get older. For those who know me, I’ve doing social media and blogging since grade eleven, I truly love what I do. However, half year into the program, I learned how much I hated my program. I was never motivated enough to learn new things and I discovered that I have a fear for blood. I never felt so discouraged in my life, but this is when I realize that I need to stop seeking to fulfill the expectation of others and my parents. I decided to dropped out of Life sciences and go into a field that I enjoy which is Business and Marketing.
As I reached my 20’s just recently, my parents are already telling me I need to stop being so “picky” and get into a relationship or even getting marry within the next five years, because I am running out of time according to my parents and society. In Chinese Culture, it is important to marry before hitting thirty, once you reach thirty and is still not married, you are to be considered as “left-over”, yes just like a left over meal that no one would want. It is sad to see how as a woman, we are pressured and labelled. There are so many expectations society behold on us as we grow older, getting a stable income, get married, having children.
SK-II have empowered me to share my story and struggles with you, as well as sharing this film to bring light to the issue that women should have the right to their own choice, the right to live a life without expiry date, the right to choose their own path in life. SK-II has launched this amazing campaign to show women are not alone with these issues, we should share our experiences and learn from each other. Always remember to take your time and choose what makes you happy. The destiny is in your own hand, create your own destiny.